Dating in Singapore
Some context I am a 29M . Funny, in shape, good job, ok looking guy (6-7/10) 167 70 kg.
My experience with dating app is ok getting a few matches, went for a few dates but nothing worth screaming for. Have been getting attention from ladies at work. But most of them are attached / married.
Obviously I am past the age where you find puppy love etc in school where you go get married happily ever after. But how do you find “love” since we are all already grown adults etc?
I am also not the kind of guy that just get into a relationship just for the sake of it. I am not being particularly picky. Just want to find the spark and someone I can gel well together with.
What do you think is the way to better my luck both in dating app and irl ?
Join more social group in hope to meet more people? Zhng my profile?
To me, finding the one is the hardest life quest I set out to do. I will take any help there is. Thanks in advance
Netizens’ comments
- Being funny is something other people see and appreciate in you, not something one should claim to be.
- Just a side note, and base on my observation, everybody always thinks they are above average.
Great that you think you’re a 6/7, hope you find someone who thinks you’re a 10/10. That’s the key. - Attention from ladies when they’re married/attached (and they’re aware you’re aware) is the only time most ladies will give you attention.
It’s so their intentions won’t be misinterpreted as anything other than platonic
Maybe I’m jaded and bitter but looking for a “spark” is gonna end up wasting your time and leaving hurt feelings all over the place. If you’re physically attracted, can connect on an emotional level and have similar values, that’s good enough IMO
Though maybe that’s what the spark is in the first place! - Stop targeting to find the one. Just use the dating app as a means to get to know more girls and be genuinely interested to get to know the person with no expectations
- It’s good you have so much confidence in yourself.. but I agree with the other comment that being in shape does not contribute much to a long term relationship. It’s probably going to take more time than you wish for to find a suitable partner. It may also take more than a date or a different situation to see that spark in someone. In all honesty, I would guess that any kind of women may find it more comfortable to hang around guys they know are safe.. so I am not particularly sure about the type of attention you’re getting..
- May be unpopular but I’m gonna say what no one else is saying.
Unfortunately, you’re relatively short. And in a superficial world, that probably takes 1-2 points off your 6-7 score.
Defo not saying that makes things impossible but that may be an insight as to why your dating pool isn’t wider.
I have friends who have hard rules for 180cm+ before they’ll even consider pursuing further.
I’d say to just keep at it. That’s all you can do.