He’s 29 I am 23. We know each other from dating app and go exclusive for less than a year. He really dotes on me a lot through monetary but sometimes I just feel insecure.
He is the one who suggests to go exclusive. However this exclusive period for 7 months, he didn’t ask if he wants me to be his gf but we are just like in a relationship.
He will introduce me to his friends and biological sisters, travel together, buy me airticket whenever I say “I miss home (Malaysia)”, delivers me food whenever I work late, links his credit card to my grab app and even talks to me about BTO.
I got quite confused and asked him few times, “what are we?” He always just shrug off the topic or just say something like “whatever you think we are.” I am a bit insecure recently because he is always on his phone these days when we date and sometimes tilted his phone away from me (which he never done that before).
Yes, monetary wise he showered me a lot, and of course I buy him things too.
Emotionally, I would say he tries to comfort me whenever I am angry at him but after apologising he will just say “I have apologise, what you want me to do?” Or “you’re just too sensitive, think whatever you like la.” And the next day after our arguments, he text like normal again.
Guys, help, I dk what are we.
Netizens’ comments
- One thing for sure. You are not his girlfriend.
When you ask what are we and he said whatever you think. It is one big red flag.
Any future arguments he can push all responsibility to you and said it’s all your own thinking. He’s not a good man. You sure you want to continue down this path? Don’t fall in love with the illusion of what you hope he is. He is clearly showing you his true colors. He’s not serious about you and once he marked you as a toy, he will never deem you as wife material.. When a man have genuine feelings about you he will not make you question yourself or lead you to have more doubts even after you’ve asked him the right questions. - My guess is you’re already in a physical relationship, and he’s been showering you with monetary benefits. Simply put, you’re just his sugar baby.
- If he refuse to give you the formal title of girlfriend, then just quit it bah. He’s just treating you like a play date. No point.
If he really take you seriously, he would have ask you out formally. Instead of giving excuses like “ whatever you think we are la”