I’m ( F23) fed up with my bf (M25) behaviour. He’s not working and completely neglects our relationship because he’s spending all this time doing his passion, thinking he’s going to get famous
My boyfriend is 25 and I’m almost 24. We’ve been together for almost three years and a half, but been knowing each other since school .
Ever since I know him, he has a passion for photography. At first, I thought it was such a great nice thing and I was admirative of him and his passion, but now I can’t stand it anymore.
After graduation, he went to study in art school and I went to university. When I was 20, I saw him at an event. After that, we started to see each other a lot and eventually fell in love with each other.
The first year was perfect. He was so funny, loving and caring. He was studying and practicing his passion but always had time for us. We had little date nights, spend hours talking, had an amazing connection and I felt like he was my soulmate.
Things changed when my bf was in his last year of art school. He was so busy with work, that we didn’t get to spend as much time together as we used to. ( we live together). I wasn’t mad at him and to be honest, I was busy as well with my studies.
But things got so much worst after he graduated. It’s been almost a year and a half now. He didn’t get a job, actually didn’t even try to find one.
He’s spending all his time taking pictures, editing them, etc. This takes hours and hours. So, that makes me the only who is working ( part time) because I have a few months left before I’m finishing my studies.
His parents help him a bit financially because he barely makes any money with his pictures. If it wasn’t for me, he would be a starving beggar already. I’m the one who pays for the majority of things.
His excuse is that, he has to be completely dedicated to photography, because he thinks that he’s going to make it big. He legit thinks that he’s going to be the next « Annie Leibovitz, male version».
I told him that I wished that for him but I can’t help but think that he’s delusional. He’s talented but for now he barely sell any pics and don’t work on any photo shoots expect his owns.
The other day, he was bragging to a friend , about how he was going to sell many pictures in the next months and was going to make more than 5k a month. I was like wtf, it’s been a year and a half already. Not to mention all the times, he took me as his assistant to help him in his photo shoots.
Of course he can’t afford an assistant since he’s not working. I stopped going because I was too busy with studies and work and also because, I’m not his f-ing assistant but his gf ( for now).
He’s taking friends now who help him for free, why not ?! The rare times I ask him to do something with or for me, he accepts but it’s for a very short amount of time. He’s completely neglecting our relationship.
The things we used to to before, were not doing them anymore. He doesn’t have time. I told him that I was fed up with his behaviour and to get a job, while still doing photography on the side.
I also told him to to be more invested in our relationship if he didn’t want me to leave. He’s 25 and a grown man who has to take his responsibilities. He said that I was being mean and not supportive. But I’m the one who is doing everything right now. I feel like I’m losing myself in this.