Can anyone help me understand my situation?
Ever since I’m a kid, I’m always unwanted by girls, probably cause I’m physically unattractive. It’s understandable really, so I accepted that I’ll be with no one.
In university, when everyone else got into a relationship, I was always the single one. My female classmates often made fun of me, saying my face is a wreck and I’ll never be able to attract anyone with my look. They always insult my looks everyday. It doesn’t hurt me cause I’ve long accepted it. I never fight back.
One day, a coursemate , who happens to be my crush, that I’ve worked together for years, confessed to me that she liked me. Of course, this is new to me. I asked what about me that she likes, and she said that I have a great personality, a “husband material”, and for some reason, she said a bonus for her is that I have a great physical look. Of course, I was shock. Things like this never happened. I decided to open up my heart even more and start a relationship with her.
But here’s where I don’t understand. Months after I got into a relationship, suddenly, my female classmates has been…different. Like they were flirting with me, asking me out on dates, and giving me gifts. Some other woman from different course flirted with me too. My female classmates even tried to sabotage my relationship but failed. They even fought againts each other cause they were trying to win my heart.
I’m really not trying to brag. This is new to me. So my question is, why do I suddenly appeared to be attractive when I have a gf? Aside from the fact I have a gf, my looks are the same, my personality are the same, and I’m not rich either. My gf accepted me for the way I am and we’re building things up from scratch.
So like…what changed really? What’s the difference in me when I have no gf vs when I have one?