I keep missing opportunities to chill and potentially hook up with women because I dont drink.
I get it a lot of people use alchohol to chill and relax and try to take the edge off. However I’m the kind of guy( 27 ) who doesn’t drink often and when I do its 2 drinks tops since that about my limit and it happens to put me just at the legal limit without hangover and feeling like I’m gonna be sick.
I find that when women drink more the 2 drinks I get very uncomfortable, cant relax, be flirty and make moves. I recently had the opportunity to hangout with a woman at my place and she texted if I had alcohol before coming over. I told her “I only have wine and i wasnt looking to get drunk tonight”
she kinda gas lit me with dont be a party pooper type stuff and a bit of she’s more fun when she drinks. I responded with “if you cant enjoy my company at my place without alchohol dont show up” needless to say she didn’t respond, didn’t show up, and has ghosted me. I dont regret putting my foot down but geez it seem once I take alchohol off the table women back off and dont want to deal with me on any level.
I dont have an issue being under the influence with say someone I’m dating that i know decently and trust but these early interactions where they want to drink when i dont know them well just baffles me.
I made the mistake of mentioning this at work to some colleagues who asked how my “date” went. They all shook there head and couldnt believe id say no to that. They got some of the front of house girls in on it and they were asking why I had such a problem with drinking They were more brutal with their questions then my guy colleagues. I got so frustrated I asked them all to drop the topic.
Did I shoot myself in the foot? Am I doing myself a disservice not being open to letting loose with someone I dont know that well who hasn’t been to my place yet? Should I just let alcohol impact what happens and how it happens?