I (25m) have never felt more more dejected, unattractive, and unwanted as I do now.
I have tried online dating in the form of tinder, OKC, Hinge, Bumble, even Badoo multiple times in my life. But now it feels worse than ever.
I dated the same girl all through my uni so I didn’t really understand just how much easier it is to meet people then.
I broke up with her (long story) and tried to move on. I actually had a single success on Tinder, getting my only ever date and turning it into a decent relationship for ~6 months.
It didn’t work out though and so I ended up back at square one.
Fast forward 6 months, now I’m working full-time and have absolutely no real world connections or opportunities to meet women at all.
I know I’m decent looking, around a 6.5/10 or 7/10 according to others. I’m young, relatively fit, well groomed, and I dress well.
However, that all seems to count for absolutely nothing. If you’re not an 8/10 or higher you’re invisible, or at least that’s the way it feels.
I have tried optimizing my profiles with better pictures, bios, etc and yet I’m lucky to get a single like across 3 apps in a week (and it’s rarely someone I’m interested in).
Idk if it’s the fact that I look really young or if my profile is buried under better ones, but I’m getting desperate.
There just seems to be no options for guys in their mid twenties at all. I’ve never been one for going to bars but I just might have to resort to that. I’m at a complete loss, and am pretty much ready to consign myself to a solitary life at this point.
Work alone drains me for everything I’m worth. I rarely have the energy to even consider trying to go out. For those that might say work on yourself etc etc I do that plenty.
What little energy I do have is spent staying in shape, spending time with family, and taking the occasional hike (my other hobbies consist of reading or watching things which is a little easier).
Ultimately none of it does anything to solve the crushing loneliness in my heart.