I’m 31 been going on dates with a 32 y.o woman for a little over a month. We matched about two and a half months via online dating. I’m confused because I really like her, but it seems like she’s not fully comfortable with me and projects very reserved, somewhat standoffish body language when we’re together. We’ve kissed several times (haven’t made out or had the “special time” yet) and after Date 5 she reached for my hand and we walked together back to our cars. That’s as far as we’ve been physical.
Date 1: Coffee. Date 2: Dinner. Date 3: Came to my house to cook dinner together and watch a movie, but left after an hour due to “feeling sick.” Date 4: Lunch. Date 5: Dinner. Date 6: Her place to eat takeout and watch a movie.
During date 6 we sat on the couch together and shared a blanket, but her body language came off as distant and cold — like she wasn’t trying to get to close to me, but still sat close by me on the couch. I didn’t make a move as I’m not sure if she’s still uncomfortable or whatnot.
I’ve initiated all of the dates and we have an awesome time in person, I’m just wondering why she seems so reluctant towards me. I know she likes me, as she deleted her dating account to only focus on me. Is this just an instance where she’s very inexperienced and/or simply nervous around me or what? I’ve never experienced anything like this before.
Here are what netizens think:
- I’m a very awkward person and I give off a ‘don’t touch me vibe’ even when I don’t mean to. I come across as very stand-offish and it has more to do with unresolved childhood issues than it does inexperience or not liking a person.
- There could be lots of reasons as to why she’s coming across this way with you. The best thing you can do is talk to her about it. It may just take her a while to warm up or she may just have a low interest in physical touch. You’ll never know till you ask
- Hi I’m the same way, and this is the biggest problem in my dating life… 😕 I feel like I’m constantly “acting” just to try to show the interest I’m actually feeling.