I’m actively trying to replace my good friend at work and lying to his face about it
He got offered a job through connections and kissing up. He knew I desperately wanted it and even admitted I was way more qualified than him and “you definitely deserved this more than I do,” so he will “leave a good word when (he) eventually leaves.”
Now, the boss is more interested in me since my friend is WFH but boss prefers the office.
My friend has told me on several occasions that he thinks the boss will replace him with me and it makes him upset, and I keep comforting him and saying it will never happen, while secretly feeling happy and doing everything in my power to make it happen.
It has been my dream to work for this company for almost a decade and everything about it fits perfectly into my interests, career and even future education opportunities.
I’m not sure if I’ll lose his friendship if I am given the job, I’m too focused on the fact I could work for the company of my dreams.
Update: he is currently working for the company but I don’t (yet). He’s the one that has always been competitive and insecure because of my background (he’s even lashed out at me because he was once jealous of someone becoming my best friend instead of him), while I am jealous of the fact his kissing up has gotten him so many opportunities while I had to put in 10 times more work for half of what he got.
Neither of us are perfect but convenience has made us friends for over 10 years. However, I know he would do the same if our roles were switched, that’s why I don’t feel bad.
- I’d stop lying to him and trying to comfort him. You’re not his friend anymore. You’re just not.
This is the nature of the business, and that’s fine, but don’t be disingenuous.
- You both sound like a-holes
- There’s nothing wrong with working hard and being rewarded for it. If your friend is worried about his job, he should step up his work game.