I (24M) know that a lot of people will just just say I’m in the wrong because of the stigma, but hear me out.
I’m consistently not really sweating or anything. I usually shower when I feel gross and it usually takes me 5-6 days before I actually start to feel gross. I’m not crazy, when it’s hot and sticky I shower every 2-3 days like normal but it just doesn’t feel necessary.
Anyway, the inciting incident here was on Sunday. I was buying more shampoo and commented on how the price had almost doubled since last time.
My girlfriend (29F) asked when I last ordered it and it was some time in mid-2020. She was shocked “how did it take you almost 3 years to go through a bottle of shampoo?”
I told her that I don’t use a lot and eventually we got into how frequently I showered and she acted like I was crazy. She didn’t even know that I was averaging one shower a week because I keep good hygiene.
I groom myself regularly and wear deodorant so I don’t think anyone can really tell the difference. Then my girlfriend, we’ll call her Granet, starts going on about “oh that explains the smell” and stuff like that.
I totally think she was just making it up at this point. I’ve been dating her for 2 years and she’s never commented about smell or anything.
There’s no way she just happened to decide that I smell bad now that she knows my shower schedule. She’s just trying to shame me. We argued for a while about it and then she went home.
Am I a wrong just because I’m not following the societal norm? I remember reading that overshowering can cause head lice but no one even talks about that.