Advice on hooking up with older woman
I’m 28(M) and in a fwb with a 41(F). She got divorced recently and has two kids. We started seeing each other and getting physical like two months ago.
This is my first time in a fwb. She wants to F like 4 to 5 times a week, which is great and I’ve no complaints. However, for fwb I’m not sure whether there should be a limit to sleeping together per week? Sometimes we even meet during lunch time to F each other.
Secondly, she moans a lot! Literally screams. I tried kissing her but she is loud. I have a roommate and it worries he might judge me. I’m pretty sure he’s already judging me with sleeping with older woman. Any advice?
Because of the age gap should I let her to be dominant? Also, we both are exclusive to each other in bed and we talked about going raw in the coming weeks and she’s on pill. Is it okay?
Sorry for all the questions, I’m new to this.
Also, after finishing, we cuddle and pillow talk. Sometimes even take showers together. I was thinking about taking her out on dinner. Is that too much? She has spent the night and even weekends at my place but wanted to take her out. Like an appreciation for her sleeping with me.
Netizens’ comments
- You two are both legal adults who care what your roommate thinks or go to a different place to hook up.
Hooking up in a fwb schedule is based on what you both agree on. Open communication is the key. I suggest you both have std tests before going raw just to make sure you two are both disease free. - Why are you worried about judgment from your roommate? Unless you actually share a room it doesn’t have anything to do with him except for her being loud (which I do understand can cause upset for some people).
Regarding her being loud, it’s likely that she’s enjoying herself. It is possible to ask her to tone down the noise but she might become self conscious and then enjoy it less.
As to the question you asked about her being dominant. That’s a personal preference thing. Do you enjoy her taking charge or would you prefer being in charge some of the time? If you’d prefer to be able to take charge at times, talk with her. If it’s that you’re fine with how things are, just let it be.