I am an introvert and I don’t have friends. With the new semester starting next month I am dreading it.
I only found a guy friend in year 1 and I thought that I can just stick to him and blend in to the crowd. The problem is he is extremely self absorbed. He thinks that he is very irresistible and all the girls are flocking towards him. there is only one super desperate girl expressing interest in him. The rest are just friends and most of the time, he is the one trying to attract attention.
The other day in the library I overheard him bragging to his friend about the number of girls he managed to attract in year 1. To my horror, he mentioned that I am one of those nutty girls going crazy over him. I felt so disgusted because I do not have any romantic feelings towards him and I am just trying to survive in school. I want to distance myself from him when semester starts but I will become a loner and it just sucks…
I wish I have a normal friend… Just one will do…
Here are what netizens think:
- There will probably be someone in the same situation as you. Just try to spot someone that is always alone (preferably of the same gender to prevent weird misunderstandings), and try to sit with her the next time. Then during lectures, make the first move to befriend her by asking questions, like “sorry, I didn’t get what the lecturer said about this part”, and there you go. Simple as that.
- Join a CCA? Perhaps Toastmasters to build up confidence and communication skills. Ppl there should be quite welcoming generally!
- Besides being high in the perceived self worth, this male friend appears to be high in entertainment value. I suggest OP to keep this friend close for bored days.
- You know what they say…first it starts out as friends, and then… Besides, there’s a reason you CHOSE him and not the other dudes you deemed as invisible to your standards.