I’m still stuck in this parental cycle of gaslighting
Here I thought signing on at 22 years old would send enough of a message that I have enough resolve to toil and self-afford whatever I have always wanted.
But not only is my parent making noise about how I spend my salary, she’s also making noise about how much leave I’m using. What makes it worse is that the holiday destinations she keep hinting to me, I either dread or just have no interest whatsoever.
Case in point, one day she decided to ask me “You don’t like to wear thick thick (for winter) correct?” I said “Ya” The next thing she asked was “Want to accompany me go see northern lights?” NB THEN ASK ME FOR WHAT? Are you doing this on purpose or something?
Also she keeps hinting Hokkaido and Okinawa, one being nothing but mountains and 6 hour long bus tides, the other being just scenery which I’m just not that into. Every time I say I don’t like those, she starts to pout like a kid who doesn’t get their way with candy. My god…
She keeps buying on clothes on impulse from livestream sellers, but most of the time don’t even fit or quickly deems it “not really her style”, and ends up donating the bulk of it to the town council collection drive. And here she complains about ME buying too many anime figures…
Netizens’ comments
- Your mom is looking at you as a means to get what she wants.
Just draw your line of boundaries. Just say you are saving.
There is a reason not to disclose your salary to your parents. Because they will input those number and think the earliest age they can retire- yup, draw the line but continue supports with essential stuff like bills,groceries etc after you ord and have more income. holidays are after all a want,not a need.
my sister didn’t set boundaries and she pretty much has to support my parents. they would demand stuff from her while they’re very reluctant to ask me anything.
- yup, draw the line but continue supports with essential stuff like bills,groceries etc after you ord and have more income. holidays are after all a want,not a need.
- Bro ngl this doesn’t pertain to NS in general, but I believe everyone who reads this would tell you this nonsense is normal Asian Parenting problems. It’s not just something that can be scrapped even if you sign-on in the army. Even full-time employees working at some famous corporation gets the same nonsense as you. Honestly, I gave up getting pissed with my parents over that kind of nonsense too. Just do it your way. It’s your life after all.