I lost my virginity to my ex bf, I don’t know what to tell my new bf.
Last year, I did the dirty with my now ex boyfriend. It was entirely consensual, and at the time great, but now the memory has soured.
My new boyfriend has been my best friend for about 6 years. We had a conversation about virginity, and he said he’d rather lose his virginity with a virgin rather than a non virgin. (He doesn’t know I lost my virginity.)
He even said he wouldn’t even sleep with me if I wasn’t a virgin, even if that meant never.
I feel extremely guilty I never told him and don’t know what to do. I really really love him, and I don’t want to lose him over this, but I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. I can’t take back what has been done, I’m just filled with this anxious energy.
Netizens’ comments
- Hon if he only wants you for your virginity then he’s not the right one, whoever you’re with should be there for YOU not for your past. Better to tell him and rip the band aid, that way at least you wont live in uncertainty
- Hey! You did nothing wrong! Just tell him the truth and if he wants to walk away, let him! It’s always better to be in a relationship where you both see things eye to eye
- Just tell him, you have nothing to be embarrassed or guilty about its him with this strange hang up about wanting to be with a virgin. If you really care for each other you can work through it, you just need to be completely open and honest
- He has a right to a preference, but saying stuff like he won’t sleep with you ever if you weren’t a virgin is insane. I wouldn’t lie to him; relationships are built on trust. If you tell him the truth and he walks aways that’s good for both of you. If he shames you for it, kick him to the curb. Best of luck