I’ve been dating a girl for 3 weeks. I’m breaking up with her already.
My new GF invited me to a dinner wifh her parents. Cool, why not. I’m serious about her so I think it was fine for me to meet them (in my culture, it’s highly encouraged for parents to meet their kids’ new partners regardless if they’re already an adult or not).
When I finally met them, I noticed that her dad was quiet. Like, EXTREMELY quiet. It was like he’s a statue or a ghost. The only time I heard his voice was when he introduced himself to me and it sounded like a whisper.
Her mom, on the other hand, had a booming voice. Her laugh could shake the entire house and her actions and reactions were so over-the-top. I felt awkward and drained of energy just by watching and listening to her.
We ate dinner and my GF and her mom were so loud to the point where they would even scream while laughing so hard while they would slap the table.
But the thing that made me frown was that her mom would hit her dad whenever she would laugh. And it wasn’t a friendly hit, either. It would probably classify as a hard slap every single time. I could see her dad twitch in either pain or surprise, too.
It was hard watching and listening to them so I excused myself to the comfort room to compose myself. When I got out, I saw her dad standing by the hallway and he seems to be waiting for me.
His exact words were, “Be careful. They’re the same. You’ll get hurt in more ways than one.” and then he went back to the dining room.
The entire evening went by with no more words coming out of him. It was literally just her mom talking endlessly.
Those words stuck to me like glue and, even now, I hear it loudly in my head.
It made me see my GF’s red flags so clearly. The way she would casually (and painfully) hit and slap me while laughing or excited, the way she would ALWAYS find something to punch or kick or scream at when she’s angry, and how she would throw things in frustration or whenever she would lose in games like UNO. There was one time where she screamed at my face so loud that I heard ringing in my ears.
The signs are all there, and I pity her dad who’s been enduring that kind of treatment for decades from her and her mom. I truly hope that he gets out of there someday.
That’s all. Wish me luck, guys.