A netizen shared how her boyfriend has a really “hot” female best friend.
The best friend then played some p*rn videos and watched it with him and some other people.
Her boyfriend then started talking to her about his best friend’s “vibrant s*x life”, to which the girl then started crying.
She then started having a lot of nightmares about her boyfriend and his best friend doing kinky stuff.
Here is the story:
My boyfriend has a really really really hot female best friend. (AKA the girl that he tells me not to worry about)
There was once, when he was in a gathering with his friends, his hot female bestie played and showed p*rn to everyone. There was no consent. My boyfriend felt extremely uncomfortable but he kept quiet as he was shy and didn’t dare to speak up. I was not present at the gathering.
A little background of myself: I was diagnosed with PTSD last year. My trauma was related to s*xual trauma.
When I first found out about the p*rn incident from my boyfriend, I wasn’t affected yet as the triggers did not blow up back then. I shrugged the matter off.
A few months later, my boyfriend started talking to me a lot about the vibrant s*x life of his hot female bestie. Somehow, I just broke down immediately.
I told him that she is really damn hot. I started to have flashbacks of the p*rn incident. Reflecting back on it, I felt damn uncomfortable. To me, when my partner watches p*rn with someone of the opposite gender, it is a crossing of boundaries.
What’s more, he watched p*rn with the girl that he told me not to worry about. I was so afraid that my boyfriend may accidentally be turned on by his hot bestie, or fantasise about her.
I started to have a lot of nightmares and flashbacks. The nightmares are uncomfortable to me as it’s about my boyfriend and his female bestie doing kinky s*xual stuff together.
Whenever I have such intrusive flashbacks and nightmares, I get so depressed and traumatised. I would cry the whole day. I lost all my self-confidence as well. At the same time, I felt super guilty for being affected by the p*rn incident only months after it occurred.
I kept telling myself that “it’s his female bestie. Why should I worry? Why should I cry? It’s wrong to cry as it happened a while back.”
I started blaming myself for being affected… after knowing that some ppl are okay with their partners watching p*rn with opposite gender friends.
Is it wrong for me to be affected and cry only some time later? Is watching p*rn with friends normal and will you allow your partner to watch p*rn with ppl of opposite s*x?
Any advice?”
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