(21m)(21f) my girlfriend quit her job to spend more time gaming
This is going to be a long post, its also my first post here, I hope it fits.
I (21m) was the second one of my whole friend group to get into a relationship. My girlfriend (21f) was amazing. We graduated and for the next few months I was the happiest I’ve been in ever. My girlfriend was in our friend group before we started dating and I thought things would be awkward when we started but all of our friends, especially my best friend (21m) were really supportive of us.
My girlfriend is a gamer and when we’re not doing things together she’s playing a videogame, there’s nothing wrong with that, its just become too much.
We moved in together last year (I guess it would be two years ago since new years) and shortly after she quit her job so she’ll have more time to game and I’ve had to work two jobs now just so we can keep afloat.
I’ve talked to her about it so many times and she says she’s looking for a job but nothing ever comes from it. I love her so much but I’m feeling so burnt out. Today I managed to get my girlfriend outside and we went to a bar to celebrate the new year.
There were bands playing and my best friend was in one of them. I had to look twice since he was the youngest guy in the band. The other guys were in there late 30s-early 40s. They played lots of songs from the 70s and 80s with a handful of songs from the 60s and 90s mixed in.
After they played, my girlfriend and I talked to him. She asked why he was playing with a bunch of older guys and he explained that they needed a lead guitarist and he played guitar, so it kind of happened like that. I asked how life was going for him and he said the band was probably the best thing that happened to him after graduation.
He then went on to talk about his life and how he’s feeling much happier lately. He wasn’t trying to brag, he was just telling us about his life since its been a while since we’ve seen each other, but a small part of me felt jealous.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my girlfriend so much but a part of me wants to experience my best friends lifestyle. Granted I can’t play any instruments but I want to experience the “single life” and I’m not talking about one night stands or anything like that. I just mean relaxing whenever, only having to work one job, only having to take care of myself, doing whatever I want on weekends, not having to pickup after another person.
I also kind of feel like a bad friend. Because of the jealousy, and I spent 95% of my time on my girlfriend for the last 3 years. I get that, as a boyfriend, I’m suppose to spend lots of time with my girlfriend, but I’ve only seen my best friend (and the rest of our friends) twice in the last 3 years not counting today
He also seems to be really good friends to the bass player, as they were talking the most. I guess I kind of feel like I’m being replaced as his best friend and thats my own fault for not being there.
Sorry for the long post, any advice for my situation helps.