My(18m) girlfriend(18f) poked holes in the condoms
For context, we grew up together. She was the one who asked me out cause I was way too intimidated, with her being way out of my league.
She told me a few times that she really wants to have kids now. I told her we should wait until we have full time jobs and enough money to raise a child.
She protested that her parents are rich enough to support but eventually dropped it, making me think that there won’t be any issue.
We have a couple of packs of condoms at her place. One day I forgot my phone there and went back for it. That’s how I found her with a needle, poking the condoms.
She was so shocked but then said that it’s my fault she has to do this. I still love and want to be with her but how do I make her realize this is a big violation?
Logic is telling me it is safest to break up with her but I’m terrified of being without her. We’ve been dating for two years now and before this fiasco I’ve thought about marrying her one day.
Netizens’ comments
- Run away as fast as you can.
- Nope. No. Never talk to this maniac again.
Having kids is nothing small to decide in a day. If you are not ready, you should not be forced to comply. This goes no matter which gender’s doing which.
She’s going behind your back, lying to your face, and doesn’t care what you have to say about it.
She crossed a line, and you shouldn’t bend to give her another chance after this. Will she learn her lesson? Who knows!? You can’t allow her to break your boundaries again. She’s gotta go. - Get her to admit to what she did by message, act like you wanna talk about it subtly
Like start with
“Honestly i feel so bad that you did this, ilysm but i am so confused as to why you would to this to me “
And if she doesnt say it out herself, then say “you poked holes in the condoms thats so messed up” and wait for her to say something stupid like “yeah i did but-“
It might save you if there is a hearing one day - The problem with looking at the world through rose colored glasses is that red flags, just look like regular flags.