My gf and I has been together for coming to 8 months and we recently have some arguments about how she hangs out with other guys.
While I love her the way she is, she is sometimes too “blur” in my opinion, but also because of that she is very happy and optimistic of other people’s intention.
As we stay in different halls, I found her going on one on one meals with her hall friend, and sometimes goes to talk with her senior in his room, and just generally being very friendly with everyone, and sometimes studying in the library and exercising together one on one.
They are different guys. I count myself as quite introverted and put very strict rules on how I interact with girls, and throughout my life I really dont see the point of building close friendships as I feel like its either you catch feelings or when they get attached you lose that friendship.
I do have female friends, but I do not hang out with them or text them much like how my gf would, and in the 8 months knowing her, I only met 2 of them one on one once, and I know them since secondary school.
I definitely know nothing is going on between them as she tells me about what she does before hand, and she was ok with me reading their text when I asked that one time.
But I was upset that she was being too comfortable and we sorta fought over it. And I just feel like being attached, you shouldn’t be hanging out with guys that often, and I keep the same standards for myself.
So I asked my friends about it, and they said it could be because she was 3 years younger than me (i retained) so she might not be as mature to understand that while i trust her, i do not trust the guys she hangs out with.Â
Anyway I would like to hear advice from everyone here. Am i being too unreasonable? i know i can be quite conservative, but is asking her to tone it down too much?
Its my first serious relationship and I do not want to screw it up over this issue, and if its really a values thing, should i reconsider the whole rs altogether?