One of my close friends proposed to me, I’m 18m and my close friend is 19f.
So I’ve been working at a fast food restaurant for almost 2 years now, and I’ve developed a close relationship with one of my managers. We’ve progressively gotten closer; we’ve spent a lot of time inside and outside of work together. We even went on a trip with each other and some friends and all of our friends said we give off couple’s vibes.
Needless to say, we both like each other.
But this morning, after I clocked out, she said she needed to talk to me in private. No big deal right?
So she pulls me into the Manager’s office, and she starts telling me that she has feelings for me and has had feelings for quite some time. I said my feelings were likewise, and in that moment I thought she was going to ask for a relationship. But instead, she gets on one knee, takes out this super nice engagement ring and proposed for marriage.
Now, I’m feeling pretty blown away at this point. I asked why she wants to skip straight to engagement, and she answers that she doesn’t really believe in courtship as it relates to dating. Obviously I like her and all, but I don’t think either of us are in a position to make marriage happen anytime soon. So I said I’d get back to her with my answer.
So here I am now. I really like her, and I feel like we’d be a fantastic couple, but I’m not even close to thinking about marriage or any kind of engagement. It’s jarring. I’m super confused right now and I’d appreciate any kind of advice on this situation.