My [25M] roommate [25F] accidentally caught me “playing with myself” and is starting to cross boundaries.
So last week I was home alone, my roommate was supposed to be going out for class and so I thought I had the apartment to myself.
Well I decided to do what guys do, and spank the monkey. I didn’t think much of it, since I had the apartment to myself, but I left my bedroom door open like a moron.
About an hour into it, my roommate ended up coming in since her class was canceled, and I didn’t hear the front door open.
I was pretty into it and as I was “arriving” I noticed her in my doorway just watching me. I got up while I was halfway into “shooting” and covered myself but the whole thing was so awkward.
She gave a small laugh, apologized and started talking about her class being canceled. I literally had to cut her off mid-sentence and ask her to leave my room so I could clean up.
Ever since then things have been… weird. I noticed she’s more touchy with me and even goes as far as to wear more revealing clothes around the apartment. We’ve lived together for two and a half years and I’ve never seen her in less than sweatpants/yoga pants but now she’s in her underwear and a crop top all the time. It’s obvious she’s dressing different.
Normally this wouldn’t be as much of an issue, it’s every guys dream right? But I have a girlfriend (and I’m not attracted to my roommate, she’s my best friend of 6 years and I see her as almost a sister) and I feel guilty every time I’m around her now. I feel like she knows what she’s doing as well, since she won’t wear the revealing clothes while my girlfriend is over, and I’m not sure if I should even tell my girlfriend about this or not.
The breaking point for me was yesterday after work. I came home and she was topless in her panties in the living room doing her hair. I asked her why she wasn’t in her room and she said she wasn’t expecting me home so soon, but it’s the SAME TIME I’m always home.
I told her I felt like this is crossing a boundary and she apologized saying it was an accident and that she really didn’t mean to, but I can’t help but feel like it wasn’t. I feel like I’m crazy.
Todays she’s been texting me and apologized again for yesterday and is now asking to drink and do shots together tonight to celebrate her finishing school (I don’t have work tomorrow so tuesdays and wednesdays are my weekends) but I don’t know if it’s appropriate or where it’ll go when she’s drunk and inhibitions are gone.
I’m too poor to live on my own so I wanna do everything I can to fix and maintain my relationship with my roommate. How should I go about it?