I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I am about to get married, we set a deadline with her parents and if we did not hit it we would have to separate.
one thing that I can’t get focus on is losing weight. With our pre-wedding photoshoot and dress selection coming up soon.
My life has always been hectic and I’m always stressed, by work, by my relationship with my fiancé , by her dissatisfaction and disappointment with my inabilities to do better.
It came to the point where she would always point out that I’m fat in every conversation.
She doesn’t care if I’m working on losing weight because she said if I don’t change my ways and on my deathbed, she would be saying, “you deserved it”.
I feel like a loser most of the time because of failure and defeat. I have lost 20kg on a keto diet in 3 months but gained 10kg back when I stopped.
It wasn’t encouragement that I got when I lost weight but the only disappointment that I didn’t hit my goal of a 100KG, and even if I’m 100kg, I would still look like a fat person to her.
I have no idea how I can work out and manage this at the same time.
Netizens’ comments
- She is toxic, but I agree that you should keep a healthy BMI for health reasons.So leave her, work on your BMI (using healthy methods), then find someone better
- She has zero respect for you and hence the harsh words. No words of encouragement? No working out together? Since she’s so disappointed then let her go find someone else lohDitch her lah. The best way to live your life is to live it for yourself first and foremost before living it for someone else that matters.