Me (M30) and my GF (F29) are very much in love and happy together. She doesn’t get tired of expressing how happy and satisfied she is, in general and in the bedroom.
In fact, she has told me multiple times that she has never had this many and intense sessions in her life before.
Now while I don’t doubt her statements at all, it is also true that only once did she come from actual PIV-penetration, the rest were all oral or by hand.
Of course, I love making her come in any way, but it is something I have noticed.
The other thing is that whenever she is really in heat during intercourse she almost aggressively starts pulling me ‘deeper’ inside of her.
As if I’m not penetrating her deep enough for her needs. But let me also say that she has never complained or made any negative remarks about my performance or my size.
Again, she keeps telling me how amazing it is for her.
Still, there is this lingering feeling, resulting from the lack of climax through PIV and more importantly the aggressive pulling, that I am not big enough for her (I am about 15 cm).
Do you think I am onto something here? Should I address it because in the long term it will just leave her desiring bigger and becoming unsatisfied?
Or am I just being insecure about my size like many men for no reason? As I said in the beginning I’m very much in love with her and I just want the best for her – so this thought does keep nagging me in the back of my head.
“Or am I just being insecure about my size like many men for no reason?”
Without meaning to make you feel bad: yes, that is exactly what you’re doing.
Most women don’t come from PiV. Whether they do or don’t has little to nothing to do with size.
She wants you deeper because it feels good. it’s not that you’re not “deep enough” — she could be taking in a monster c- and she’d pull him deeper too. It feels good. It’s nice to pull someone closer. It’s a mental and emotional thing as much as anything else.
Your size is above average, the average size is about 11 to 13 cm.
The most important thing is to take her word for it. If she’s more than satisfied, and she’s telling you this explicitly, that’s what I’d take at face value.