A netizen shared how he found out that his girlfriend has been cheating on him with a married man and is considering telling his wife about it.
Here is the story:
I (29M) found out my girlfriend (30F) has been cheating on me with someone who has a wife and daughter. Should I tell the wife?
I had been seeing my partner for about 6 months, though we have known each other for most of our lives.
Recently, a mutual party reached out to me, out of the blue, with evidence of messages, pictures, and voice notes that her and her co-worker (who has a wife and daughter) have been sending back and forth to each other for the majority of our relationship, possibly longer.
I confronted her about it immediately. She denied everything and we promptly split up.
What I am unsure of, however, is if I should reach out to the wife and tell her the truth.
My conscience tells me I absolutely should; that she deserves to know the truth just as I deserved to know. However, I am hesitant to potentially ruin the lives of three people by sharing it and disrupting the marriage.
I mean, we live in such a tiny country and there are really only one or two degrees of separation between anyone here. I’m concerned for mutual friends that may be inconvenienced by this.
I’m torn and looking for advice. My heart hurts, but I am so so glad I found out sooner rather than later, and I know I will recover. But I can’t shake the feeling that I would not find the means to forgive myself if I kept this a secret. I don’t know… maybe I should.
What do you think?