A small intro. I’m a 25 year old male currently work full time and overtime in the security field. Not much to note other then overworking myself.
My gf is 23 years old with a list of self-diagnosed issues.. Including claiming to have DID but only when an adult talk comes around then she acts like a 5yr old. Or passes out when confronted with her own behavior.
I have been with my gf for almost 2 years now and she is my first partner. Things were going great at the start but like a love blind youth with my own family issues, she talked me into getting an apartment together with her after only 6 months. At the time we both had Okayish jobs and the promise was to split the bills. Well moving time comes and she doesn’t want to work her gig jobs alone so I ride along on them. No biggie more time together
Jumping forward a year. Ive jumped jobs for better pay and career advancement, working 60 hours a week and cleaning the house. While she quits jobs faster then she can get them cause they are hard (retail) or they dont respect me (she they tell her what to do). We have a joint account for bills but she spends the money on fast food or game streaming supplies, claiming she will make that her job. Being supportive i get her set up but make the rule she needs a normal job until streaming makes her more Than her day job. She agrees.
Jumping to today. Our lease is almost up, she lost a cushy manager job I pretty much handed her (whole blown out resume which the owner loved) on the 2nd day cause she agreed to 10 hours then told them she can’t work more than 6. She’s been without a job for 2 months and does nothing but make messes and play vr chat. She will sit in piles of trash and whine at me to clean it up. I currently work 2 jobs 7 days a week to make ends meet and am dead at the end of the day.
I do love her very much but the effort of caring for her and keeping things afloat is causing enough stress my liver is struggling (according to my doctor) and my hair is falling out. Im not sure if i should ask her to move back home when I renew the lease or what. If i bring it up to her she starts crying about me being just like her exs and i hated her this whole time.