A netizen shared how his girlfriend resorts to calling him a loser whenever they get into arguments and he doesn’t know what to do.
Here is the story:
My girlfriend resorts to calling me a loser when we’re arguing.
The other night my girlfriend and I got into an argument over a jealous issue. (We have our trust/relationship issues, and are trying to work through them.) However, every now and then while arguing she gets disrespectful and will begin calling me names. The most hurtful being, “loser”.
While this might not seem that bad, I’ve opened up to her in the past about my self-confidence issues. I’v made myself vulnerable to her and explained, with tears in my eyes that I struggle with feeling like a loser.
I’ve explained that far too often I find myself feeling like a disappointment and thinking that my family, the world, and her all think I’m a loser.
These are issues that I have struggled with for a long time (I have dealt with and have received professional help for my mental issues since my teenage years) and to this day have a huge effect on my self-esteem.
It’s also hurtful that she refers to me as a loser even after all I do for her and our relationship. I told her I would take care of rent and the household bills so that she would feel okay to not work so often and not need to work full time.
So for the past year I’ve been paying the rent and bills. I am always doing her chores at home, she doesn’t like cleaning, washing clothes etc etc (not very many people do, I get that, but I know it’s showing that needs to get done) but I’d say our cleaning is split 80/20.
I make sure she’s taken care of in the bedroom as well, I make it known that I live to please her during intercourse. All the while she is somewhat lazy with pleasing me and it seems like more of a chore to her.
I basically live to try and make her life easier by providing wherever I can. I give her all of my time, provide financially and emotionally, but somehow I’m still a loser.
I’m at the point where I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to not be with her, but I feel like I’m not respecting myself if I continue to stay.