I proposed to my girlfriend and she said no. I feel so stupid
I don’t know how to feel. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for five years. I love her so much. Not to get into it, but I lost someone I loved so much when I was 23 and I was sure I’d never love like that again.
It took a while but then I met my girlfriend and I fell again. We understand each other so completely and I’d do anything for her.
The only positive, I guess, is that I proposed at home so there was no public embarrassment.
She started crying when I pulled the ring out and told me that she couldn’t and that it wasn’t my fault, she loves me, on and on.
She was sobbing so hard. I was crying too, which is even more humiliating I went to stay at my sister’s. I can’t talk to her about it yet, it’s only been like two hours. I feel so dumb and unlovable.
When I was 23, when I lost that person, I thought that was the worst day of my life. It still is, but this comes so close. I’ve been chain smoking and I haven’t smoked in years.
Netizens’ comments
- Buddy. Put that cigarette out go brush your mouth out. No need to start smoking again. Quitting sucks lets not do it again.
Im sorry she said no. That would be shitty to hear. You should give yourself a couple days to mourn the future you thought you had then talk to her and decide what the next step for you two is.
You are loveable. You’ve got this. - God five years and she said no? Man, I hope y’all have a chat and can work things out. Maybe it’s a “not now” type of thing. Wishing you the best
- I am so sorry for you. I proposed to my husband partly as a joke, partly serious and was extremely hurt when he said no. It took him a couple of years to get his thoughts sorted and now we have been happily married for more than ten years. He proposed.
Sometimes it is difficult to admit that you love somebody so much that it hurts. The fear of being rejected is terrible, and this might be the reason she declined.
Take a few days and talk, talk and talk. The situation is probably as horrible to her as to you.