my guy friend and I have been friends on and off for the past 4 years. We met in school and he ended up really fancy me. He asked to kiss me once, but I told him no because I was in a relationship.
However, we had such a deep connection. Fast forward to 2 years ago he drove me down to his place and I slept over at his place.
I ended up getting really drunk for the first time and he came on to me. He kissed me and I passed out on his bed with him. Only one problem…I had just started a relationship. I cheated. I wouldn’t have done any of that if I wasn’t drunk. The following day he wanted to discuss what had happened, but I refused.
We never spoke of it again and I stopped talking to him because of what I did until now.
Presently, we reconnected. Two weeks ago we got coffee and talked for two hours. Catching up of sorts. It felt like no time had passed. He bought me the coffee and he opened his car door for me. It felt very date esque. Since then we have been texting every day, sending each other songs, and today we hung out again.
After interrogating I found out he is in a relationship with a really nice girl, Jill, for 4 months…. immediately I feel wrong about the whole thing because he has liked me for the longest time. Why didn’t he tell me before when we were getting coffee. And we had just been playing card games, drinking the bottle of wine he got me hours before, and just started dinner.
I ask further questions, stating “soo your girlfriend is fine if you hang out with other women who are just your friends” and he says “of course”…. “If she wasn’t that would just be controlling”