Women sometimes say to me “you can do whatever you want to me” and then they get disappointed when I try to cuddle
Apparently “do whatever you want to me” actually means “I want you to read my mind and dominate me in a specific way that I like.”
I’m a huge 1.9m tall, bearded tatted dude. Women assume I’m this rough daddy-dom or something. But I’m a teddy bear.
If you tell me I can do whatever I want I will cuddle you, eat you out, give you a massage, finger you, make out, etc.
But this often disappoints women who say this to me who apparently expected me to know that “do whatever you want” meant “choke me” “spank me” and “call me a wh*re.”
This might be a specific to me problem but it’s come up enough that I just find it odd. It’s cool if you want a spanking but just say that! I can’t read your mind. I don’t want to slap you I want to hug you.
- No, that’s a them problem. People need to accept that if they don’t clearly communicate what they want, they get what they ask for.
- I’ve learned that when women say “You can do whatever you want to me” it is their way of saying they like it rough… because when they say that they are opening the doors to rough territory which is usually something off limits….
so when they say that and you go gentle, it’s not what they expect and are let down… but if gentle is what you like, you just gotta find someone who also likes it
- I love a good cuddle. I think there are other women out there who do as well.
My advice is to ask them exactly what they mean, flat out ask them if they’re saying they like it rough, or if they truly mean anything. Then tell them that you’re a cuddler, that you mean to be gentle and affectionate.