I called my wife lazy because she keeps dropping off our kids to school late.
The kids are off school at the moment for the holidays obviously but this has been causing a lot of tension between me and my wife over the holidays so I want to know if I was in the wrong.
So, I [F30] live with my spouse [F31]. We have two kids, twins, [M6] and [F6]. Both of our kids go to the same school.
Me and my wife both work full-time and share housework and minding the kids 50:50.
Recently, we both had changes to our work hours which changed our routines. We both work certain jobs that can have all sorts of weird hours.
My wife used to work night shifts, but now works a 9-5. She’s not very happy about it as she’s always been more of a night owl and hates getting up early.
I’m now working early shifts, 5-2 most days.
This means that my wife has to get the kids ready for school and drive them there on her way to work.
It balances out though because I can take them home after work, they finish school at 3:30pm.
They need to be at school by 8:00am or they’re considered late. I understand that’s a bit of an awkward time for my wife to get them there when her workplace is very close to the school, but that’s just life things.
Before the kids broke up for the holidays, I got an email off the school’s principal explaining that our kids have been consistently late for school over the past few weeks and that it has sparked a lot of concern.
I knew that the kids had been late a few times as they mentioned it to me, but I had no idea it was everyday. They aren’t keen on going to school (they’d much rather play outside or watch TV like most kids) so it probably didn’t bother them too much.
He explained that he and some other teachers have talked to my wife about it a couple of times at drop-off but nothing has changed, and said that we need to attend a meeting with him when school starts again in January.
I showed my wife the email and asked her what was going on. She thought it was funny and said that it’s not a big deal if our kids are 30-40 minutes late to school, and it’s not like they’re in high school yet. She said she likes to sleep in and that there’s no reason for her to leave earlier when she starts work at 9, and she doesn’t want to go to work early or go back home.
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I told her she needs a reality check and that she’s putting our kids at a disadvantage, and that it must be embarrassing for them to come into school late everyday. She said school shouldn’t start so early and that she’s getting them to school so what’s the big deal.
I told her to stop being lazy and leave the house earlier in the morning and grow up. She said if it’s such a problem I should change my schedule and take the kids to school myself.