His dish washing skills are a genuine concern to me.
My (22F) husband (22M) sucks at cleaning. I’m just going to flat out say it. If he’s sweeping he misses half the room and doesn’t get the corners. If he’s doing laundry you’re lucky if your clothes are folded neatly before getting shoved in the drawer. But it’s the dishes that really get to me. He doesn’t clean the bottom of the dish, the handles of the utensils and cutlery, the bottom corners/books of mugs and cups, etc. and it is genuinely a safety concern. If I wash my hands before dinner then pick up a dirty utensil handle that literally defeats the purpose. Or when we stack the plates and all the dirty bottoms are touching the clean tops, that defeats the purpose too.
I usually do the dishes because I like the standard that I have. I accept that if I want things done my way then I have to be the one to do them. I do the dishes, the laundry, the scrubbing, the cat litter, the tidying and organizing, the sweeping, the mopping, everything except the garbage. I accept that and usually I am okay with that! Although in the odd time I need help with a task if I’m busy or overwhelmed I ask him to help out and he has no issues doing so. But then it’s legit a safety concern yet again.
No matter how many times I ask him to make sure he does the dishes properly, giving him examples of things to change and how while making sure i’m not babying him or backseat driving, he never seems to improve. I think I have told him like 10 times “please don’t put the non-stick pans upside down on the clean dishes, the dishes are now greasy and need to be rewashed” and yet as I am writing this there is a pot upside down on top of the dishes…
Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I should change to encourage him to build his cleaning skills? Is he doing this on purpose or just out of unintentional ignorance? All I want is to have a helping hand around that actually helps, because right now I need to redo most of the dishes…
Before anyone attacks my marriage, this is a roomate issue, not a marriage issue. There is a difference so please remain respectful for my husband and our marriage.