My husband just informed me he plans to be a househusband and I need to get a job.
I have been a stay at home mom since our first child. We have three school aged children now and I’m in my mid 40’s. I haven’t worked in 17 years.
My husband was diagnosed with mental health problems and he hasn’t gone to work physically since the pandemic and started the process of leaving over two years ago.
His plan was to go to school, try a new career and worst we would both work part time while things got going.
We’re still stuck in limbo, with one child due for university in a year and a half. And with inflation and a recession I am feeling hopeless.
I need to find work sooner rather than later and it’s just so depressing thinking about working for the next 20 years of my life just to scrape by because he can’t deal with life anymore.
I’ve had it good and he is sure to rub that in my nose and I know he is hurting but it just doesn’t feel like he’s even trying to get better and he’s just falling into his thoughts.
I want to work and help with finances and before he never wanted me to. I will get a job whether I like it or not.
Im just very stunned and confused and don’t know where to begin and what this means for him and us. I feel like he’s pulling away and is giving up and I’m scared.