Husband refuses to wake up; baby and alarm issues
My husband is a deep sleeper, he could honestly sleep through a tornado. Meanwhile, I could wake up from our eldest shuffling around in her bed. So, very light.
Husband is back to the 9 to 5 job. We have 3 kids, I’m a SAHM. 10, 2, and 5 months. The 5 month old still sleeps in our room and wakes up 1-2 times a night. The 2 year old is transitioning to a toddler bed and is waking up several times a night as well.
Husband has 5 alarms set that he sleeps through. He always wakes up at 715, but they start at 645. They are the loud beeping kind. We’ve tried lights, the vibrating ones.
The only thing that seems to wake him up is me kicking, shoving, or whisper yelling at him. He’ll turn it off and go right back to bed until 715.
I’m so tired of it. He won’t get rid of the alarms, apparently he “feels like he gets to sleep in” if he gets to snooze, and it “gradually wakes him up instead of having to get up instantly.”
But they don’t wake him up, they wake me and the baby! We’ve slept separately before, but he always wants back in bed, because it “isn’t fair that you get a king bed all to yourself”.
He is also putting up a stink about helping with the kids at night lately. He says he doesn’t remember in the morning, but he can say some rude stuff in his sleep.
His sleep is important, he’s too tired, I’m already up kind of things. Last night I was up with the kids off and on all night and when the baby woke up at 630 for a bottle, I asked him to help feed him.
He whined that he’s so tired and he barely ever gets any sleep and why should he have to get up early (he fell asleep at midnight after plowing).
I’m just annoyed. I get way less sleep than him, I’m with the kids 24/7, I take care of them and the house, I bring the kids to and from school and speech therapy, I’m tired too!
Just because I don’t bring in money doesn’t mean what I do isn’t work. I try not to ask for a lot, but I don’t get to clock out, the kids don’t nap together so I’ve never gotten to lounge around.