My (40M) husband (38M) was unfaithful and doesn’t want to cut contact with the affair partner
We have had an agreement that we can hook up (safely) with others if the opportunity arises, so semi-open in terms of our relationship.
That said, we agreed to the caveat that we would not maintain ongoing relationships with others outside of our relationship…essentially random occasional hook-ups only.
My husband violated that rule last year and I caught him. He promised he would cut it off and stop talking to that woman. But just six months later I found out they were still in contact but supposedly not meeting up or having any kind of physical relationship.
A couple of months ago I found out he was doing it again with another woman. He claims it was not a relationship yet he spent the night at her house multiple times and I came to find out that he was f-ing them raw without protection.
I told him I’m done and we’re done.
Now he wants to work on it and says he has cut off the physical part of his relationship with the second woman but that they are friends and he won’t cut contact.
They still text/chat and meet up at the gym and work out together. He doesn’t see it as a problem and says he won’t be controlled and that I can’t tell him who he can and can’t be in contact with.
I let him know it’s not about control just about my boundary. If he needs and wants to be friends with that woman so damn badly then he will not have me anymore.
I’m really hurt and disappointed that this friendship Is more important to him than our 15 year relationship but I guess it is what it is.