My husband just admitted to cheating and I’m nervous he might have an STD
My husband just admitted to cheating on me a month ago. I feel like I’m going to throw up but also numb at the same time.
Besides the fact that we’ve been married for 15 years and have a child and he just flipped my life upside down I’m also really scared he could’ve given me something.
What he says is that he got a 15-second bj without a condom. This happened exactly a month ago. In approximately the last week he has been complaining of urinary frequency and occasionally it hurts a little.
He went to the doctor and they tested him for a UTI and said he doesn’t have one. So my question is, what is the likelihood he has something if it’s true that he just got a few seconds of oral?
I also recognize it’s possible that he’s lying and did more than what he’s saying. He is very insistent but I also believed he would never in a million years do this to me so clearly my judgement is off.
I don’t really know what to do with myself right now. So this is what I’m focusing on first. I told him he needs to go be tested for everything on Monday. If he tests negative for everything do I still need to be tested? Is there certain tests he needs to request?
Update: as some suggested he’s now admitted to performing oral on her
Netizens’ comments
- OP, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, sending you a virtual hug. I’d say that since you can’t trust this person anymore and his word is not worth much, you have to go get tested. It will also give you some peace of mind at least.
- (OP) Honestly I feel really embarrassed going to my OBGYN who delivered my child ten years ago and who I work down the hall from. Maybe I can find some random clinic to go to.
- Often the details of infidelity come out in bits and pieces, so there may be more info to come. I second the advice to get tested yourself. All the best to you.