My husband cheated on me with his co-worker. The reason? I have an IQ of 152
My husband always complimented me on being bright. I loved that about him. He had such pride that his wife is smart and he would tell this to anyone but everything changed about 6 months ago when he insisted that we would take IQ tests.
I have never done this before because I really don’t care about these things. Anyway, I scored 152. He 133. He was in shock and very subdued for several weeks afterwards.
I honestly noticed his sudden moodiness and I knew why but it was just too awkward to try and talk to him about it. I didn’t want to embarrass him. What made it worse is that we did the test via his work so his co-workers knew about it.
Things went back to normal after a couple of months. He wasn’t as affectionate anymore and he certainly never brought up my intelligence nor complimented me on it ever, but he was pleasant and happy again.
It turned out he only went back to normal because he started sleeping with a co-worker. I found out everything when I saw his friend’s conversation with him.
About how he felt turned off by me after the test. He brags about his affair and apparently his friends and brother and all their wives know about it.
It’s so odd because I’m still the same me. I didn’t change and I never take these tests seriously. And he always knew that I was smart what changed now?
I haven’t spoken to him yet about anything. Not sure I will either. Clearly his affair made him feel good about this whole thing again because he’s back to being pleasant to be around.
I love my life and I don’t want to change it. Especially when our children are still too young and need us. I just needed to get this off my chest and get some perspective. Why this sudden turn off by me?
I’m 38, he’s 36 children are f6, m4, m3, m&f twins 16months.
Some clarification: If I’m being judged anyway for staying in my marriage I should add this embarrassing detail. We have a prenup, that ends after 10 years of marriage.
We’ve been married for 7. I can’t afford raising my children in my own. If I can’t afford it, I could lose custody (not get primary anyway) And if I lose my children I might as well die.
If my husband decides to divorce however. The prenup doesn’t apply.