My husband confessed to having slept with his female friend everyday for 2 months after our son passed away.
Our son passed away when he was 3. It hit my husband hard and he isolated himself from everyone around while shutting me out emotionally.
Despite living in the same house we were so far apart. He’d leave to go hang out with his female friend who he knew for 13 years.
I never suspected anything off about him spending time with her because she’s always been his comfort person. He did this daily til one day he stopped.
I noticed change in behavior and him lashing out at the mention of her name. I thought they had a fight or something but days ago, he sat me down, started crying and confessed to me that he slept with her everyday for almost 2 months!!!
He said he didn’t know how it happened or why. But mostly blamed it on the wrecked emotional state he was in.
He said he visited her home days after the funeral (first time she saw him after the funeral) and despite the fact that no drinking was involved, he said he felt like he was doing nothing wrong when he started getting too close to her.
He swore she had many opportunities to push him off and say no to him but she didn’t which made it worse. I was in a state of disbelief.
He said it just happened and swore he never in a million years thought he’d do this, not with her but it happened.
He did it EVERYDAY for almost 2 MONTHS. and not once has he stopped to think about what he was doing. He didn’t speak after that.
After I pushed him and started screaming at him that he made my grief worse and hurt me in my darkest days. Just kept looking down crying. And his friend didn’t even come visit me probably cause she was too ashamed.
He is currently staying with his dad. I’m too exhausted I spend most of my days in bed. I feel like my life is over. Everything just seems to be falling apart including my own body.
He is asking for forgiveness because he calls it “unique circumstance” but something in me refuses to to forgive.