I (f37) guess I’m happier now than before my husband(m47) cheated on me.
Since our daughter was born 4 years ago we barely slept together. I didn’t feel I wanted it the first 6 months or so but when I finally got back my drive, he wasn’t into me anymore.
I had gained weight and probably that was an issue for him. Or maybe he stopped loving me. A year after I found out that he was sleeping with a married colleague of his. Now I knew why he didn’t want to sleep with me.
I was alone couldn’t afford it on my own with a child. For 2 years I kept my mouth shut about knowing about his affair, I just took care of my baby, threw myself into work and started to make friendships outside of his friend group.
I joined a Facebook group for girls in need of friends. I met amazing women and one of them even got me a new and better job. I lost all my baby weight and more during that time because of how awful I felt about my husband’s affair. 30 kilos gone.
At my new job I met a guy (m36) and I started my own affair. He’s amazing and he knew exactly my situation. I didn’t hide anything from him. He was happy with this arrangement since he didn’t want to be in a serious relationship.
Now 6 months later I guess I’m the happiest I’ve been since I got pregnant. My happiness and optimism must’ve shown at home (not to mention the weight loss) because my husband loves the new me now and he even started taking interest in me again.
I don’t need to sleep with him because I have my own and fulfilling life but it’s so good to feel wanted. We have slept together on several occasions but I’m not as keen on him as I used to be.
I don’t know how long this happiness will last but I intend to enjoy every minute of it because I know that all good things come to an end.