I married my husband when I graduated from uni and he was well within his career. We both have good degress and live together. I always wanted to pursue an academic career and wanted to pursue my phd from a good reputable university and never got to do that. My husband decided that he wanted an academic career too and decided to pursue that, he already had his masters so he went for PhD in USA and he was living at a very low paycheck and well beyond his means. He had some savings from working in a corporate setting so he was able to live off of that too.
I did my masters while working a well-paying job and saved alot. We do live in a traditional household so I was living with his parents and had no expenses. After the wedding, I was expected to live with my husband and his parents or wherever my husband allows. After my masters, I got a very good opportunity for PhD with a really good grant. I was still freelancing so I had good money.
He basically had no savings and I at this time I bought a condo, he was aware of the purchase and I bought it to rent it out, with no intention of moving in and started making good money on the rent. I always wanted to do something good for my parents because my father was very poor in the beginning but he still provided me with excellent opportunities, so I purchased an apartment, nicer to what my parents live in and told my parents to rent their current apartment to generate more monthly income for them. My husband was not aware of this setting.
Well, the cat got out of the bag, my husband’s parents are furious with me because I have done nothing for them (I give his mother monthly allowance for fun money and pay for the maid that does the housework) and my husband basically has no savings and no assets.
I told him it’s not my fault, he demanded to evict my parents and I told him to F off, he then asked me to put his name on the house deed and I wasn’t thrilled to do that as well. He told me that this means divorce. I will still own everything and he will have to pay my father the dowry he owes. His parents asked to let them live in the house I own and it is currently bigger than what we live in, I said no to that because that will mean cutting off a decent chunk of my monthly income.
I do feel bad about his situation but feel justified in my reasoning if I put his name on anything I will have to share, I am willing to share the monthly income but he doesn’t want that. I do carry his and mine expenses but that’s about it. I am willing to save and buy his parents something but that will have to be in my name.
Should I divorce?