Getting married was the biggest mistake of my life.
Today is Valentine’s Day and, like always, my wife has been teasing me that we can finally get intimate (been three months since we last been together) and here I am laying in bed and she’s nowhere to be found.
I’m so tired of this. I’m so lost and unfulfilled. We have been together for 12 years and she never hugs or kisses me. I’m always initiating, I caught her looking up old flames on Facebook. I don’t feel like her husband.
Her excuse has always been: “I’m not the affectionate type”, and this is true. She’s not affectionate at all. It’s her personality and I’ve accepted it for the last 10 years, but when our first child was born, she’s been the most affectionate person I’ve ever met.
I love that she is caring for our baby, for the last two years she’s been a great mother.
But I’ve asked her for some of that love and she ignores me. This has been 12 years, and today she finally broke me. I’m going to get a divorce.
Netizens’ comments
- Unrequited romantic love hurts like a motherf. Happy that you are able to make a change even though it’s a difficult one to make.
- She’s not attracted to you. And probably hasn’t been for a long time. You will find many people will stay in a relationship because of fear of the unknown. She doesn’t love you the way you love her. Make the hard choice and end things.
- Best to get out of an unloved marriage, before you waste your entire life being ignored.
- I dated a girl that was like this as I’m a very loving and touching person. Towards the end our relationship she tried everyday, but at that point it was too late. I’m glad I cut it off because ultimately I know what I want and she can’t provide me with that.
- I’m glad you notice how toxic she is and are doing something about it. I hope you find someone who can love you and care for you!!
- It sounds like you settled. You shouldn’t have married and had a kid with her in the first place. Now you’re stuck in a loveless marriage and your wife makes your child her top priority while you get nothing.
It wouldn’t be hard for her to make you and your kid priorities equally but for some reason she chooses to ignore your needs/wants entirely.
No wonder so many couples with kids eventually divorce. You give and give and get nothing back. It isn’t a happy relationship/marriage and your wife is being disrespectful and neglectful. Getting a divorce will be better for everyone involved, especially you.
You deserve so much better. I know too many friends and family members in similar marriages. Many of them settled for their spouses and now that they have kids they’re miserable and treat each other horribly but still stay together for some stupid reason. It’s so sad to see.