My (38f) husband (38m) is not as attracted to me as he was and I’m struggling with that
My husband gave me the silent treatment and I didn’t know what I did. Finally he said he was processing things about our relationship.
This gave me a lot of anxiety because I didn’t know what. Finally he wrote to me and said he wishes I valued appearance, exercise, tone etc as they’re important to him but he’s now able to accept that is just the way I am.
I got the impression before his attraction to me was waning and I do need to lose some weight and tone up, but I am feeling so hurt my libido has tanked and I don’t even want him to see me without clothes anymore.
How can I be comfortable feeling confident and attractive with someone who has judged my body and found me lacking? I appreciate the honesty, but it hurts and right now I resent him.
I feel so ashamed about myself and my body I can’t imagine being happy to sleep with him now. How do I fix how I feel?
Netizens’ comments
- He quit talking to you randomly and then sends a text indicating that?
If you don’t want to sleep with him right now, don’t. Tell him his words made you feel like he’s not attracted to you any longer and made you feel like crap. - The last three times a friend has shared her partner saying something eerily similar- turns out they were sleeping with someone else.
- Some other people mentioned it but the silent treatment along with him texting you how he feels about you attraction wise seems to indicate that he’s cheating, or looking elsewhere.
At this point if you were to completely change your appearance I don’t think it would matter to him but what would matter to YOU?
What do you want to do with this information for yourself. Are you happy with yourself? Do you feel good about yourself? To hell with how he feels about you, how do you feel about yourself?