I used to think I had the perfect marriage. My husband and I had been together for almost 10 years and we were still madly in love. We had a beautiful house, two wonderful kids and a steady stream of income. Life was good.
Refused to give me $1,000 but can tip his ‘xiao san’ $1,000
But then, one day, everything changed. I asked my husband for $1,000 for something I needed and he refused. He said he didn’t have the money and he couldn’t spare it.
I was confused and hurt by his refusal and so I asked him why he wouldn’t give me the money.
He just said that he didn’t have enough money but it was not possible as he was earning quite decently.
Checked bills and realised he was spend $1,000 plus at a certain bar every week
I chanced upon his credit card statement one day and realised that almost week in and out, he had been spending $1,000 plus at a certain bar every week.
I went to confront him as I was still upset with him for not giving me the $1,000 when I really needed it and that’s when he confessed that he had been seeing someone else, a bar girl, and he had been giving hanging her $1,000 every week.
I was devastated. Here I was, his wife, asking for a reasonable amount of money and he was giving it away to someone else. It felt like I was nothing to him. I was filled with anger and resentment and I couldn’t believe he was treating me like this.
My husband didn’t seem to care about how I felt. He said he was in love with the bar girl and that he couldn’t help it. He said he was sorry but he had no intention of stopping.
I was so angry and hurt that I told him I wanted a divorce. He said he didn’t want it, but I was so fed up with his behavior that I insisted. I couldn’t take it anymore.
So, after 10 years of marriage, I ended up all alone. My kids were devastated, my friends were shocked and my family was disappointed. I was humiliated and embarrassed. I felt like a fool for believing my husband could ever love me.
I guess I should have seen it coming. I should have known that this would be the outcome of my marriage. But I had no idea that my husband could be so cruel and heartless. He had taken away my security, my sense of worth and my dreams for the future.
My husband refused to give me $1,000 but he was totally fine with giving his mistress, a bar girl, $1,000. He had no problem with spending money on someone else while leaving me in a state of despair.