I was always a bit of a romantic, which is why I was so excited to get married.
My husband and I had known each other since school and our relationship was based on trust. We had talked about marriage for years, and when the moment finally came, it was even more special than I had imagined.
But something changed after we got married.
My husband started to be very controlling and possessive of me. He started to demand that I take the pill, even though I had been on the pill for years before we got married. He wanted to enjoy S without having to use a rubber, and he thought that if I was on the pill it would be easier for him.
At first, I didn’t think much of it and just went along with it. But as time went on, it started to feel like he was forcing me to take the pill. He would get angry if I refused and would try to manipulate me into taking it. He even threatened to break up with me if I didn’t take it.
I felt like I had no choice but to go along with his demands. I felt like he was taking away my autonomy and my right to make my own decisions about my body. I tried to talk to him about it, but he wouldn’t listen. He just kept insisting that I take the pill.
Finally, after months of this, I had enough. I realized that I had to stand up for myself and my own autonomy. I told him that I would not take the pill and that he had to either respect my decision or leave. He was shocked, but he eventually agreed to respect my decision.
Months later I caught him cheating behind me, when I confronted him this is what he said:
“I don’t get it at home so I get it outside”
We are in the midst of filing for a divorce. I am contemplating and thinking should I have just gave in to him and took the pill?