Husband (36m) mad at me (35f) and seeking FWB online.
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have three children together. We both work full time. Of note, I am the breadwinner and more fiscally responsible, though I shoulder most of our expenses.
We’ve always been tumultuous. However, things have been at a steady decline as of late.
See, my husband, who believes that his responsibilities in life begin and end with going to work, is so god awful upset that I don’t make my genitals available to him at every waking moment.
Besides sitting on the couch, watching youtube videos and ignoring the needs of everyone and everything in the household, the only thing he seems to care about is intercourse.
He has a immature level sense of humor, at best. Just loves to sit and watch stupid ass films like American Pie, etc, because they’re all hormone driven pieces of garbage.
I am currently recovering from a very significant surgery that has left me mobility impaired for the time being. This is the latest in a long line of several procedures that also left me mobility challenged. I have a life-long injury with chronic pain due to being in an unfortunate car accident. As a result, I have had increased anxiety over the past couple of years. My career has been damaged because of it, etc.
As such, I have spent a great deal of time alone, in my (our) room. Recovering. Being sad. Planning out or next moves. Budgeting. Paying all the bills. Still working full time, of course!
But my god. Not enough of my private parts have been accessible to his pervasive need.
On my birthday (last week), he joined me for a little bit – mostly to discuss how “monogamy isn’t realistic” and how we should probably divorce because my “lack of affection” is providing a poor example about relationships for our children. He then proceeded to insult my body, and then assumed that I would want to sleep with him.
Early in the morning today I snatched his phone and went through it. He is so desperately seeking someone to screw that he’s been talking with some married woman. He tells her that he’s “100% done” with our marriage but is staying for financial security.
I’m more amused than upset. However, I did end up sending a message to the ogre woman and I plan on confronting my toddler husband later.
My question is this –
Given the cost of everything, what’s the next step? Obviously, we need to separate. He needs a teenage-minded spouse that only cares about getting nasty, too. And I need somebody I can feel secure with.
The cost of housing in my area is revolting. All three of my children have some variety of special need, including autism.