My husband and I are recently married and every so often he will hit me in the face or head pretty hard while we are falling asleep.
I didn’t think much of it at first, and assumed he was just an active sleeper, but I am starting to wonder if there is a pattern here that I was missing before.
For example, some nights when we go to bed he is super relaxed especially if we got intimate and he will fall asleep quietly with no groaning or throwing hands.
However I’m noticing that when he is annoyed about anything, especially when I don’t want to do it with him, he will be very agitated through body language as we are going to sleep. (shaking his leg, hitting the bed with his hand, heavy sighing/ breathing, and creating a tense environment sometimes for hours.)
I also want to note that we get intimate at least 6/7 days per week but that’s not enough, he wants it 2x daily & super rough for him to finish.
Last night I told him I was too tired to do it and he seemed annoyed. As we were falling asleep he hit me square in the face enough for it to scare me.
I yelled “babe!”? He looked to be asleep, but I am starting to think he is trying to cover for it and could possibly know what he is doing.
I also was not giving into his advances this morning before work and he elbowed me in the eye “on accident” and said “he barely touched me”.
Its all really vague the way it happens and is causing me confusion. This has happened a strong handful of times before and I am just starting to get more suspicious.
When he is frustrated he will also just be very loud as I am trying to fall asleep sometimes for hours sighing heavily, and grunting/ just making a ruckus almost to keep me awake on purpose.
Has anyone heard of anything like this before ? I am trying to decide how to approach the conversation or whether to bring it up at all.