Husband cheated, mistress said she’s pregnant, I think they are still messaging – what should I do?
At the end of 2020, I found out that my husband of 5years cheated on me with his female boss. After all the hoohaa that lasted for about 7months, my husband and I decided to let go of everything and start afresh.
It’s easier said than done – things didn’t go smoothly for me. I started to have nightmares about him cheating and constantly having doubts in him. I’ve tried to put aside all the negative thoughts in me but still tend to suspect him.
Firstly, at the end of the hoohaas the mistress messaged me to tell me that she’s pregnant. She said that she can do a DNA test but would rather not as she didn’t want anything from us. She has a bf from China and the affair started when the bf went back to China and ended when he came back, so she left me with questions – does the baby belong to her bf or my husband.
Secondly, I’ve been checking their last seen and found out that they would go online around the same time and go offline a few mins apart. The worst is that on some days, my husband would bring his phone to the toilet and I see them go online and offline together. Coincidence on 2 or 3 occasions might still be by chance, but this happened almost everytime I checked.
Need some advice on what to do. When I confronted him, he said he did not message her but the coincidence is too much. What can I do?
Here are what people advise her:
Accumulate evidence, divorce him. File for alimony and move on with your life. Since he took your love and youth, all you can do now is take his money out of spite, not need. Don’t come and oh I don’t need his money I’m independent blablabla. Money is money. You deserve better.
i will be very petty. I will go and tell their bosses. Like I will make a big fuss in their office, make sure everyone knows about it, and their industry circle. Is not like he divorced and then such thing happen.