I am leaving my husband because of my mother in law.
I (34F) have been married to my husband for 5 years. Of those 5 years, I spent the last 3 years taking care of his mother. His mother is very sick. She can hardly go to the bathroom on her own. I have to wash her and clean her.
He never discussed anything about it to me. He just moved his mother into our house without asking me. I suggested that we should hire a nurse and he said it was a waste of money. Why do we need to hire a nurse when we can take care of her.
My husband promised he would help but he hasn’t lifted a finger. I did everything. I fed his mom, I bathed her, I cleaned her after she did her business. I am exhausted and feel like less of myself. I don’t recognize myself in the mirror anymore. I always on clock for her. My husband doesn’t help me. But he expects me to help his mother. He just comes home and plays video games.
I complained about this and he yelled at me. He said he is very stressed about his mother and he needs video games to calm his nerves. The only time I saw him do anything was on his mom’s birthday.
We were about to start a family last year but he said not now and has the audacity to complain that I do not look myself anymore. I gained weight, I have eye bags, my skin looks dry, my hands started to resemble his own mother. I am just done now.
I sacrificed my job for him. I left my job and took a part time job just to take care of his mom. I should have left when 4 years ago I asked him to lend me some money for my dad’s operation and he gave me a bunch of excuses.
He even criticized me if I spend too much time with my own sick dad. Today at work he is going to be served. I have been planning my escape for few months. I am staying with a close relative. I have enough money saved for me. I am glad I didn’t have kids with such an ungrateful man. Robert, I hope you enjoy cleaning your mom’s poop everyday because I am done.