I had a stroke three years ago, shortly after, developed epilepsy and chronic migraines. My looks have declined. I used to wear makeup every day. I can’t really do it anymore I feel terrible all the time.
My husband makes me feel worse about my natural face, body hair he absolutely will not tolerate and I must wear lingerie and heels.
Having only use of one side of my body really makes things difficult. I’ve tried. I really have, to make him happy but I’m in so much pain all the time.
He’s said awful things to me about finding it elsewhere, calling me a lazy slob and saying I could not wear makeup and put a wig on and just turn around so he can’t see my face.
He says this is all my fault because I set this standard of wearing makeup all the time and that all guys would agree with him, which I know is not true.
It’s not just that, he won’t even kiss me. I even offer to do things just for him and he says not without makeup.
He makes it impossible to be attracted to him. Why would I even want to fix up for him?? Trying to get my shit together to leave but its hard with one arm and brain damage that makes things confusing.
Netizens’ comments
- Oh my goodness I am so sorry you’re going through this. He is an absolute a-hole and your life will be SO much better without having to constantly perform for him. in all seriousness please consider leaving him. You deserve to live in peace.
- Above all you are a human being with feelings , thoughts and emotions who deserves to be treated as such . You’re not his personal adult toy . Don’t change a thing about yourself for man.
- I genuinely gasped reading your post at how awful your husband is to you. For someone who said for better or worse. He’s an a-hole. None of this is your fault and don’t think otherwise.
- It sounds like the lack of attraction runs deeper than just appearance for the both of you, and that may have devolved for him, and IN RESPONSE for you as well. I hope you receive a relationship that is focused more on intellect, experiences, and personality traits which is what you and your husband had at the beginning. Your efforts should be applauded not the other way around.