I(33F) asked my husband (31M) to wear a condom and he freaked out
In the last few months my husband had some questionable behavior, enough that I had to ask him if he had cheated.
Even though he denies it, I’ve asked him to start wearing condoms when we get intimate, just until we work some things out with a therapist.
I’m honestly conflicted about whether or not a believe him and I want to give him the benefit it of the doubt so I felt like him wearing a condom would allow us to move forward in our relationship while still keeping me “safe”. It would take a lot of anxiety away for me.
When I asked him to do this he freaked out. He said he believes a man shouldn’t have to wear a condom in a marriage and that it takes away all the pleasure for him to do this.
He told me if I’m concerned about pregnancy I should get on birth control (we have talked about this in the past and I explained that I am not able to be on birth control for a variety of reasons and that I had tried).
He’s been super mean toward me for the last couple of days and pretty much told me he won’t sleep with me if he has to wear a condom.
He told me he needs time to mentally process my request. He’s making me feel like I am asking him to do something horrible and i genuinely don’t know how to respond.
I explained very honestly why I was asking for this and that it would just be until we got through some therapy (not forever) and his response and reaction made me feel like I am just an object HE OWNS to get his D wet with however he wants. My feelings didn’t seem to be relevant at all. I’m really confused.