I can’t believe it. My husband and I have been married for over a decade and we still haven’t bought our own HDB flat.
We’ve been living with his parents in their HDB since we got married and it’s been an absolute nightmare.
I can’t stand it anymore.
I’m tired of feeling like a guest in my own home. I’m tired of having to ask my in-laws for permission to do anything. I’m tired of not having any privacy. And I’m tired of not having any space of our own.
But my husband refuses to buy our own HDB flat. He says that it’s too expensive and that we should just stay with his parents.
He claims that it would be foolish to buy our own HDB and that we should just “leech” off of his parents.
I understand his reasoning, but I just can’t stand it anymore. I want a HDB of our own, where I can decorate it the way I want and where I don’t have to worry about upsetting anyone or asking for permission before I do something.
I want a place where I can be in control and make my own decisions without having to consult anyone else.
But my husband still won’t budge. He’s still convinced that buying an HDB flat is a waste of money and that we should just “leech” off of his parents.
I’ve tried to explain to him that it’s not leeching if we’re paying rent and that it’s not fair to them to have to house us forever. But he just won’t listen.
I’m at my wit’s end. I don’t know what to do. I want a place of our own, but my husband refuses to budge.
It’s like he’s content with living with his parents in their HDB forever and doesn’t understand why I want a place of our own.
I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just won’t listen. I’ve tried reasoning with him, but he just won’t budge.
I’ve even tried to suggest ways that we can afford an HDB flat, but he just won’t entertain the idea.
It’s gotten to the point where I’m seriously considering moving out and getting my own place. I know it would be expensive and hard, but at least I’d have my own space and wouldn’t have to feel like I’m living in someone else’s house.
But I don’t want to give up on us. I don’t want to leave my husband and I hope that he’ll eventually come around and agree to buy our own HDB flat.
Until then, I guess I’ll just have to keep trying to reason with him .