My husband curses our baby out when no one’s around
I’m shocked as I’m writing this, I don’t even know what to say to him. This happened yesterday night and tonight.
My husband and I (both 30s) had a baby girl in September. We wanted to become parents and he was over the moon when I told him I was pregnant. Ever since she was born he’s been super involved, he longs for any opportunity to hold or feed her, he’s the one bathing her in the evening as part of her bedtime routine.
We have a baby monitor that we usually turn on once she’s asleep.
Yesterday, while he put her to bed and sat next to her crib, I was hanging out in the living room when I heard some talking and realized the baby monitor was on. The volume was quite low, so I couldn’t make out the words at first but when I turned it up I froze.
What I listened to was my husband talking to our baby basically insulting her and cursing her out. This sweet man sat next to the crib saying things like “I hate you so much you have no idea, that’s right you heard me, you little f-“. I don’t want this to be deleted so I won’t go into too much detail but wtf???
When he came to join me in the living room I asked him if everything was alright, without mentioning what I heard, and he was completely normal, the sweetest guy.
So tonight I turned the baby monitor on ahead of time purposefully to listen in on them again, and he did it again! I’m so confused, the way he speaks to our baby is horrifying. I’m not sure if I should be worried for her safety and how to even approach this!